August 19, 2020

My Kids Got A Tattoo And I Feel Betrayed

Have you been vocal on your stance against tattoos with your child? Does the mere thought of your precious munchkin showing interest in getting inked anger you?

From the moment we give birth, we vow to protect and love our children unconditionally. We strive to provide them with the best life has to offer. After sacrificing sleep, money, happiness, among other things, the least your kids can do is continue down the right path, get an education, and avoid tattoos.

What Happens When One of Those Rules Is Broken?

Religion, culture, and personal views play a major role when raising kids. For years, tattoos were associated with gangs, thugs, and inmates. This perception was embedded in the American culture for decades. 

Fast forward to modern-day, tattoos are not seen as taboo. In fact, most jobs who once forbid visible tattoos are now embracing them. But just because society is becoming more accepting with tattoos, does not mean you have to hold the same mindset. So how do you get over the feeling of betrayal? Did you lash out on your kids and in turn they have distanced themselves? Did you say things you have regretted? Or are you preparing yourself for the future?

What Can I Do To Get My Child To Change Their Mind About Getting A Tattoo?

This article is not filled with magical words that will help console your broken heart. It is time for you to accept that you can no longer control them and any decisions they make should not be taken personally. Wait until you can have a casual conversation without lashing out and listen to their side. 

Some parents have expressed their reaction similar to mourning a loved one, others would have preferred news of an unplanned pregnancy. 

The hardest part of parenting is accepting that your babies will become an adult with a mind of their own. The one rule you engraved in their minds has now been tossed out the window along with your feelings. 

Would you be hurt if your adult child reacted the same way towards you because of a decision you made, and they did not agree with it? Would their words and actions be magnified and harder to forgive if the decision was made based on your own happiness? We are all guilty of an action that others did not agree with but your decision to go through with it was based on your happiness. Too often we hear parents say “I love you BUT,  I won’t accept…”. With this statement, you have put a limit on the amount of love you will have for your child. If their decisions in life are solely to keep you happy, we are sorry to inform you, this will come to an end and the amount of disappointment that lies ahead will be devastating.

Is There Anything Else I Can Do?

Your vow to love, respect, and protect your child should not have terms and conditions attached to it. There is an overwhelming number of adult children who have distanced themselves from their parents. This is due to the lack of respect and the harsh backlash they must face based on a decision that made them happy.

Tattoos have lots of different meanings and it’s really important to try and look beyond the ink, to see why getting a specific tattoo was meaningful to your child. It could even bring you closer and change your relationship for the better. Helping you learn more about their innermost feelings and what is really important to them.

Don’t allow for a rift in you and your child’s life over a tattoo. Life is too short and too precious, it should be cherished every day.

Our Nat-A-Tat2 Story

The once-taboo tattoo has become a personalized choice of art for young and old alike. The body is the canvas and needs to be pampered as the inks are beautiful but not a natural occurrence on skin.  The artistry, skill, creativity, and craft involved in creating tattoos is something to be inspired by and preserved. I believe these pieces of art need to be cared for and well-maintained, and Nat-A-Tat 2 is here to do just that!

As a wife and mother, when my sons began accumulating tattoos, inspiration struck. As the founder of Pura Botanica, a luxury line of all-natural and certified organic bath and body products, I recognized the need for a certified organic and natural tattoo care that I would trust for my own children’s skin; and Nat-A-Tat2 was born.

Why Nat-A-Tat2?

Safety is our number one goal. Here at Nat-A-Tat2, we are committed to making sure your ink and skin are well cared for. As your tattoo heals to ensure it looks great for years to come. Our tattoo care instructions can help you ensure an optimal tattoo healing process. Our tattoo aftercare products are all-natural, 100% USDA certified organic and vegan, so you can feel confident that your tattoo aftercare needs are being met in the best way possible. Aftercare Lotion and Tattoo Foam Cleanser can be used while your tattoo is in the healing process. Tattoo Aftercare Balm is ideal for use after the healing process is complete.